While I respect these families' choice to ensue courtship I cannot help but have strong negative feelings about this. To save the first kiss for marriage sounds fantasic and respectful but I could not imagine what it would be like for grown adults to not be allowed to express their love to each other. And they do not have any privacy . . . and they are adults! I do not believe that sex and kissing should be held off until after marriage. People should have the freedom to do as the please with their bodies. It is a beautiful way to express a person's love to another and no one should be ashamed of that for any reason.
I also find it unfortunate that this process of courtships seems to only value the men's decisions. He was asking the father for permission and not her mother. I think that people should do what makes themselves and others happy. If the Duggar women want to be courted I think that is fine. But I cannot imagine the parents being okay with their daughters rejecting this practice and choosing to date. When I have children I want them to have respect for their partners but I would put enough trust in them that they will do this on their own without being pressured into it.
That does sound odd. I must admit between my own religious beliefs, my personal views, and my general upbringing I don't think you should have sex before marriage, but I don't think you should have to hold off on kissing the one you love. I find sex to be a sacred and special thing to share with the one you plan to have forever, not something you give away before making that one life long commitment, and not a simple commitment of boyfriend/girlfriend. I grew up in a family that expressed their love, and expect nothing less. The Duggar family may be showing respect to each other threw their actions, but how much more respectful would it be to express your feelings and emotions even through a kiss, showing all that you belong together?!
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